for real?? do I have SUCKER written aross my forehead?
ok this is the deal . last night I was sitting reading in the front room yesterday evening, i was supposed to have Girls night last night and my new book club, and i didn't go to either or them because i had been ill 24 hours before. so i was home with my chillluns just chillin' reading my book, and i hear a knock on my door. It is a guy in my ward on my doorstep suddenly explaining to me that his wife was a the temple and he had just come from the temple and was on his way to the Suns game. and since his daughter doesn't have many friends ....(pregnant pause) I say OH you want me to keep ______ until your wife comes home?" YEAH" (like duh i am supposed to assume he is ditching his 8 yr old with me?) " that'd be great this is the last game I am going to this season since we sold our tickets." ok fine," and you can start calling my wife about 8:15 she'll be wondering where _____ is. i just left a note saying i was leaving her somewhere, but didn't know where yet. so she'll be looking for her." OK fine. well after about 5 minutes of blank being at my house she comes up to me and tells me "you should clean!" your house is really messy, and the floor is sticky and dirty. well she had just been in Liberty's room, which is a nasty pit but i didn't make the mess and i am not in charge of cleaning it. and i tole this _____ well their rooms are their responsibility. and hope she'd shut up about my dirty house, this kid that was dumped on me is rather rude. not that it wasn't true but RUDE! ok so Lance is bringing Pizza home, and i ask______ did you eat dinner yet? nope , ok we are having pizza in a minute then , so she comes into the dining room we cleared the table , got out the paper plates we eat on for every meal and sit down, she proceeds to tell me, "there is a banana peel on your floor! " which i had seen in the morning yesterday but was still feeling really gross form being sick the day before to the point of drinking Coke to settle my stomach instead of my usual Dr. pepper. still sick. So i say," well i was sick yesterday, and someone else was in charge, and no one picked up when i asked. " totally all true statements. she she comes back with," maybe you were sick because it is so dirty and all the germs. " fine, and she is looking at the bird seed scattered on the floor in the corner from those new damn birds i didn't want or ask for and the mess i had asked to be vacuumed like 5 times in the last week by the kids and my husband, especially my husband and the ranting that goes with multiple asking so she is 8 looking at the banana peels on the floor, that happened when i had the flu, and at the bird seed on the floor that my husband hadn't vacuumed and telling me my house is dirty. really true but soooo rude. so i told her it isn't polite to say rude things about peoples houses. then she settles in eating her pizza, and the kids are eating and she is apparently looking around and she says,"i feel sorry for you! your house is dirty and there is writing on the walls !" yeah seems like every kid is an artist, and writes on my walls on old ugly wall paper i am taking down in the next month or two. then she proceeds to tell me maybe you should get a "home improvement" (meaning loan I'm sure she'd heard about those on TV)!!!!!!!!!! at this point i know this kid isn't shutting up and i just let her run with it. "yeah a home improvement , to paint and get new wallpaper and clean this place up! i feel really sorry for you. my dad makes money and works in an office".
wow, in his garage/home office. so Peyton chimes in ,"OUR dad works in an office in our garage, by the playroom. " then she starts telling me i need to get this light drawing thing that she'd seen a commercial for on Nickelodeon. you know how kids think those commercials are the most fab thing ever? anyway she started into the home improvement thing again and at that point I'd pretty much had it with this rude kid dumped on me on an evening i normally wouldn't even be home and tell her yeah well how many kids do you have living in your house? she tells me 3 which they are 23, 14, and 8 so this kid is really the only kid in her house. while i have 6 kids 8 and under. HMMMM wonder why my house is a pit? and the coloring on the walls yeah each kid has taken his turn being the artist, now it is the Hope and Pierce's turn. i would be horrified if my kid talked this way at someone else's home. Lance made the point that yeah our kids would never mention how dirty a house is, they would say "YOUR HOUSE IS CLEAN!" which wouldn't be taken as rude, just a statement. anyway, her mom was horrified the dad had ditched her with me, or she at least pretended to be. and i thought OK Liberty cannot be her friend and there is no way in hell that little girl can come over again.
The end!
ok and if you live in my ward and figure out who this kid is you are sworn to secrecy that i blogged this. this is not public ward knowledge but blog ranting. PROMISE! Pinkie swear!
so was this rude?
1st to ditch the kid with me to go to the Suns game?
2nd for the kid to be so rude and go on and on?
3rd for me to take offense at an 8yr olds opinion? (not that i am totally offended but that she was rude and i am blogging it?)
Let me know. but if you can't say anything nice i don't wanna hear it!
key words used -
HOME IMPROVEMENT!
I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU!
YOUR HOUSE IS DIRTY!
YOU NEED TO CLEAN!
29 comments:
Are you kidding me??? I am totally mean and would tell her that she really needs to keep her opinion to herself because I don't want to hear it! how rude--I know a certain someone in my life that is like that and i have told her to never say rude things about me or my family again--she still does occasionally--but at least she knows I am not happy about it! Seriously--she's a total little SNOT! And I bet she walks all over her mom--just a little thought from the one in my life--how very sad--and I think you were too nice--you should have been meaner!
Sounds like you need some strong duct tape! I hope my kids aren't rude when there at someone else's home! I've had some of their friends come over to play and I can't believe how mouthy some can be! Of course not to this extreme! How FuN for you!
i think she's old enough to not be saying things like that and why couldn't her older siblings babysit her??
I've had one kid in particular tell me my house is messy before and I have to admit she's the last person on earth that I want to visit. The thing is, like you, other times she was right and I just went away feeling crappy about it.
The last time though, it wasn't a mess, it just wasn't PERFECT the way her house is (because her mom is neurotic and her step dad is a jerk a saurus rex who freaks if everything isn't perfect). At least at my house she can relax and have fun without worrying about getting into trouble for leaving out a crayon or two.
So...here you go...
I DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR YOU OR YOUR KIDS!!!
YOUR HOUSE IS FUN!!!
YOU NEED TO RELAX AND GET BETTER!!!
I don't think the issue is that the kid was so rude and had no class; she learned that from her parents. What kid of person drops off a kid like that!?!? No call before?!?!
I know way beforehand when there is going to be a conflict in my schedule to ask someone to watch my kids. However, in cases of emergencies (Sun game is not an emergency), I do whatever I can to decrease the load of the person watching my kids, ie feed them first.
This makes me so mad because I feel so guilty asking people to watch my kids, and then there is people like this.
I think this is a tricky situation. First of all, that guy has some major nerve to drop in and ask you to watch his daughter with no prior phone call or anything. I think he needs to be shot. His wife should be so embarassed.
Now, as far as the little girl goes...that's where I'm not sure what to think. She is 8 which is still pretty young...I don't know what to compare her to. I mean my four year old says things all the time that I am trying to smoothe over, but she's 4, half the age of this 8 year old. However, being that her mom wasn't there to reprimand her and she was dropped off by a man who obviously has no manners, she probably has it in her genes.
Honestly, your wife doesn't accidentally end up at the temple, that's prior happenings that are planned. You don't just happen to get Suns tickets (he said he was selling them right?)...he knew about this game for weeks and did not plan.
One of my favorite sayings that I was advised on when I became the RS President in the last ward was, "Your lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on my part." A lot easier to say very nicely on the phone, but nearly impossible to say in person on the spot.
You've got major blessings coming and now you have the next family home evening planned--good manners while you're at other people's homes! (sorry this was so long)
J - i love kids but have a hard time watching other's and i definately am with you about being annoyed esp on a night to relax and not listen to a critique of your house! - even if she is only 8(which if you ask me is old enought to have some manners and those weren't manners) i WOULD be horrified if marc ever did that to anyone else! hopefully that husband got a talking to when he got home!
Julie I love you!! I would have passed on watching ______. I have so many times before. You were very very brave clean house or not. I have never laughed so hard in my life.
UNBELIEVEABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Holy crap!!!!!! What nerve-- first off for her dad to come drop her off on you-- that is super rude if you're not like good friends with them.. I can't believe she wouldn't just drop it!!!!! She is going to be a total sNoT when she grows up if she is like that at age 8!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't worry about it..
Okay...first of all that was incredibly rude for him to just drop her off on you like that...mEn..and yes, that was very rude of her to speak such rUdE things about your house...She needs to learn to keep rude comments to herself! SO rude that her mom was annoyed that he dropped her off at your house...what ever happened to "ThAnK YoU"....
And...I have 7 siblings and we were all very close in age..first three a year apart...then a break, then last four all a year apart...so i know it is not easy to keep up with kids and can be a stress in itself! My mom just let it all go cause she couldn't do it all by herself...just give your kids a few years then they can help you out... :)Hope you are feeling better now...
Next time you hear a knock on your door at night...DON'T ANSWER! Or maybe you should have told him you had the flu and he would have gone somewhere else... :)
Niiiiiiiice! They've got some nerve in that family.
I have to say you totally deserve major props for taking the little one (especially considering the circumstance). And Secondly the Dad deserves to be flogged for dropping her off unannounced like he did (that is totally Presumptuous!!!) But I think the sad part is, is that most of us can proably think of someone in our own WARD that would do the same thing!
Oh my-that is one of the funniest stories that I've heard in a long time. I'm sorry-but it totally cracked me up. I would have been way bugged by her too! And, who does that-you know, just drop off your child with someone when the other parent doesn't know where she is and just leave a note not telling her where their kiddo even is to go to a game? So go late Mr. Daddy! You are a nicer person than I am.
oh my goodness!! I sure hope my kids know what's okay to say and what is not. Having a "clean house" is not the most important thing in life. Rock on girl!
I'm picturing this child looking like Drew Barrymore in "Firestarter." >:)
You are justified in taking offense to an 8-yr old because children do not filter or cushion what their thoughts are.
But who really cares what her thoughts are because she is clearly destined for dysfunction! Your kids are going to remember a FUN HOUSE. (nooooooo, dear, not the fun house at the circus.) A ROCKIN' GOOD-TIMES HOUSE!!! They'll love you for not being too uptight. The memories of that #$%^@ little girl are not going to be pleasant, looking back.
My son's friend told us our house was ugly and it bugged me for days. I hear ya. It stems from having off-kilter, wrongly-focused parents.
So go put on wet socks with all your kids, squirt dishsoap all over the kitchen floor, and "MOP." :D
Heeheehee! You ended my Rumpelstiltskin Game! Actually, Wendi hunted it down about a week ago. (she is VERY persistent) She read through about a billion of your posts and sifted thru them to find it. Now we are thinking about how to creatively USE this information.....
WHOA Nellie...who let that kid in the house? I would DIE a long and horrible death if my kid ever did something like that.
Sweet G used to ask me, "Mom, is someone coming over?" when we used to clean. I knew it was time to start cleaning more often when that happened MORE THAN ONCE.
You are too nice to take someone's kid like that. Never again, I'm sure!!
I probably would've smacked her, ok not realy, but I would have thought about it! Rude!
First thanks for stopping by my blog and posting. Even though you don't like the 2005 Darcy ;o!
I have to say you are MUCH nicer than me to even tell this dad okay in the first place. Your JUST getting over the flu! I would have told him NO. Flat out NO!!
Now about the rude child that you kindly took in. I would be horrified my any of my children said anything like that. I don't think I would allow my kids to be friends with her either. AND I too would be offended.
I do have to say that your randition (sp?) of this story was dang funny.
WOW! Clearly the mom told the dad that she had plans and if he wanted to go to the game it was up to him to figure out what to do w/ the kid. I cannot believe he just drove around looking for a house to drop her off. She was RUDE w/ all her comments. And to keep going on and on and on. Maybe that's why she doesn't have many friends. It's sad really. Maybe that's the way her parents talk about other people. Who knows? Now it makes me feel good that you said my kids didn't make any rude comments when we've been over there. I try to tell my kids that if there's a mess, it's usually cuz kids didn't clean up after themselves (like in our house) & they shouldn't judge anyone else. I would've been so peeved if some kid came to my house & started talking like that! I'm too nice sometimes & have a hard time saying NO also. I bet you were wishing you had said you still had the FLU. So sorry you had to endure a night like that! And really, he didn't feed her FIRST?? Geez!
WOW!! I can't believe the dad just shows up at the door with her...and NO WONDER SHE HAS NO FRIENDS!! Who wants to be friends with someone so rude!
Would have told her to SHUT UP!
What a brat. & I'd of killed the parents.
I have another one of my hints.... that goes along with the shop vac vacuuming we both do.
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SHHHHH.
And if you think I weird,lazy, and enjoy cleaning my kitchen floor only with this, well I am. :)
LOVE ya
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Janna- i totally have a hoover floor mate but our tile is the old marshmallow top style and it doesn't work very well or fast on it. and it doesn't get down to the grout. huge bummer for me. but i do love my commercial mop bucket and wringer. and my stand up dust pan. it is just the actual litter that i want the kids to pick up that deters me from really sweeping and mopping. i hate to bed over to pick up crap being 6'2". it is really far to the floor.
People seriously need to be taught some social skills. Sounds like the entire family needs a lesson or two.
one, who cares, she's 8!! two, someone should tell her mom so she can teach her daughter some lessons. You know that mom talks like that about other people or the little 8 yr old wouldn't have a clue. What 8 yr old notices a messy house when it's full of fun kids to play with?! third, my niece was 3 when she told us that we were "spoiled and selfish" mmmmmmwonder who she's hearing that from?????? seriously, you are awesome and next time just tell her to "keep it to your self sweetie or I'll tell your mom you're being rude!" love ya!
my mouth was hanging open reading this!! what kind of a kids says those things? my kids don't notice when their own house is messy much less someone else's. i would be worried about her parents.
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