Monday, April 28, 2008

glad i had that disclaimer since i changed my mind.

yeah obviously super bad day yesterday. a number of things had been festering under the surface for a few weeks and it came to a head.
no actual blogger offended me . so if you were worried about that , rest easy. it was a family issue.

and i have things to say.

I'm having a private blitching blog that will be exclusive. not sure how exclusive. BUT SUPER EXCLUSIVE.

this one will be measly crap that we all love.
kids saying funny stuff. random crap and whatnot. and maybe if I'm embarrassed ward people are secretly reading my blog maybe i should change what I'm saying , or how I'm saying it. or say hey read at your own risk. and be fine with myself.

anyway. changes. are in order , so i can still blog, and yet "contribute" to the family. apparently i don't contribute enough.
and to that i am flipping the a-hole the actual bird. but that is a whole other issue. and why should i lose my ultimate favorite part of everything . my blog, just to spite him. i can blog and contribute. and he can kiss my extra large A$$. and i told him that. and he didn't want me to quit, just limit. while we are remodeling.

what i will say is , there is a fine balance within a family relationship and when outside people make observations and gossip, or make harsh judgments. it messes up the dynamic. and i resent that. and maybe things should be handled differently.

anyway. so that was totally a false alarm. i may or may not be sending out invites to my super exclusive blitching blog. and maybe i'll limit myself. on this blog. and that might mean comments will be fewer and farther between, and yeah, 2 try rule on the word verification. and if people don't comment here once every other week or more, they are officially off my super cool person links list. AND my reader. AND maybe that will cut back on the obligation and the compulsion to blog. since that is what it is an obsessive compulsive issue. or an addiction whatever you call it,it's pretty much the same at this point.

and i'm gonna get an appointment to the Dr. meds are in order. they aren't new to me. let's be real. prozac the breakfast of champions. and seriously it takes the edge off. THAT'S how I handle having this many kids this close together.

i'm setting my google reader to procrastination setting. meaning. you can only log into reader for 10 minutes every hour.

and i'm gonna start fly lady. it will be a start. we'll see .

and i'm making a chore list up for the kids. we will be strict this summer. and on a schedule/reward system. for all of us. me included. i need a prize.

So there we are. sorry for the false alarm. well it was real but i have stuff i wanted to blog about. and thanks for the abundance of emails. and phone calls. and the support. i think with limits, and minor censoring. it will be fine and really maybe i'll just start offending people , it's their fault if they lurk and i don't know right? right.

and maybe some more lurkers should come out of the closet.

real life friends? that read but don't comment? not my fave thing. i should go private just to spite those people seriously BUGS!


well i'm off to contribute to the f-ing family. and help Liberty clean her room. that should be fabulous. we are gonna re-arrange it. i like that. makes it more exciting.

43 comments:

Jen said...

GLad it was just a false alarm, I was missing you already! Heck I missed out when I didn't really get on at all this weekend. Hope you are feeling better! We need to do lunch this week, it's been too long!

tammy said...

Sounds like the PERFECT plan. Glad you didn't leave for too long.

SuperCoolMom said...

Good choice.

jes said...

i am glad that it wasn't for long... it would take the fun out of blogging

jes said...

i am glad that it wasn't for long... it would take the fun out of blogging

Andrea said...

YAY!! I was already having withdrawals thinking about you not blogging! Glad you're feeling a little better today. Some days are just so overwhelming. I totally understand. If you figure out how to get your kids to clean their own rooms..let me know. Cuz whatever I'm doing isn't working. LOL

Luv ya oodles!!

janna said...

I am glad you did not go anywhere!
Love ya!
Janna

Mamarazzi said...

sounds like you have it all figured out...just make sure you add me...cuz i loves me some blog blitching!! whooooT! i gave you an award on my blog...and it is PERFECT for how you are wanting to keep it real!!

i am glad it was a false alarm...i am here...i will listen!

Michelle said...

hip hip hooray.
I'm glad you didn't really go away.
You're tuff. and Prozac is the cure-all! love the stuff.
And don't be afraid to offend people... they CHOOSE to be offended!!

AutoSysGene said...

I'm glad you changed your mind!! I look forward to continuing to read.

And I agree Prozac is the breakfast of champions!!

kellyo75 said...

OMGosh, I read your blog this morning and thought I was gonna $hit a brick! Like, seriously. Your blog is so rad and so Rated R and I would be lost without it!! So, does this mean I won't get to see the Rated R parts anymore?? Anyway, I am so glad you changed your mind. I hope everything is OK at home - I do know the "You're on the computer too much and my house is a mess ALL.THE.TIME." story all too well.

smithfam said...

Glad you are back. Go get some meds and send some to me will ya????

Oh and by the way. I miss your Discovery Chanel song. Yes I know it is perverted, but I love it.

Jenifer said...

I've been checking back all day, hoping you would change your mind! Just make sure you take time for yourself and do what makes you happy. And if that is blogging, we all win! Keep your chin up! We all missed you! I need my daily dose!

sherry said...

Welcome back! I know I didn't take you off of my googlereader just yet. I wasn't even tempted, really. Other people really shouldn't stick their noses into your private family personal business. Love flylady. I did it for a while before my last surgery. I even got one of my kids excited about the house fairy even though I never bought the program and did a half a$$ed version myself. Then I got really sick and slacked off. I plan on picking it up again after I stop hurling. You'll have to let us know how it goes.

Amy said...

Oh good, you changed your mind. I was seriously very BUMMED. I love reading your blog. Just know you're NOT the mom in the world with issues. I think your a GREAT person who embraces life and what it gives us. YEAH YOU'RE BACK !

kay said...

yipee!!! i was missing you already.

i'm glad you were able to vent about what was bugging you.

i personally love what you have to say.

love you j!

Anonymous said...

And a collective sigh goes out in Utah..... whew!

I am Arizona; a person, not a place. said...

I'd miss you if you were gone, so I'm glad you will keep blogging. Life is about balance, so do what you need to do to make yourself happy. That's what matters most. :) Don't listen to what other people say you need to do in order to find happiness or balance because only you can answer that question. Glad to hear you'll still be in the blogosphere. There's no one else here who's as RAD as you!!

Meredith Ferrin said...

I"m glad you got things worked out Julie. I'll be a better commenter and check more often. Good luck with the room cleaning....you can do a whole post on what you decide to do for your reward system!

Are You Serious! said...

♡ Okay I've been gone from bloggy world all weekend and am now just getting caught up! So I've had a bunch of ups and downs with you!!! I'm so glad you're going to keep blogging! I totally understand the balance issure! It's a hard one for me too! AND WHAT THE H*** on the people judging... I have big time issues with people freaking out about someones blog when they DON"T HAVE to be READING IT IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!! That's why there is the little red X in teh right hand corner so they can choose not too! BUT WHATEVER! I like reading your blog and I'm going to keep on reading it! Well that is if you don't kick me out of your bloggy club! :)

Debra said...

Sounds like a great plan. It is SO hard to find the balance that fits for your family.

And meds. FABULOUS! I have been on meds since 2000. Couldn't handle 5 kids without them!

Leslie said...

I am glad you are back...and I am glad you were not as drastic as I was when I had my moment. You know cause I did delete my blog.

Anyway, I hope you are feeling better and if you ever want to vent...I will always take your side!!

Anonymous said...

Super glad you are back in full force. We need to get together, drink some Dr.Pepper and talk about Grey's.

Cecily R said...

Um...HOLY CRAP!!! I get sick for a few days and totally miss EVERYTHING!!!

I'm glad you're back. Even if I never knew you were gone. I'm sorry things were touchy for a while. I hope things are okay at home.

You know I'm around...

Webb Family said...

I'm cheering over your new plan!

Stacey said...

Glad you put in your disclaimer! I do not know you personally but I really enjoy reading your blog and I was completely bummed yesterday to find out that it could be coming to a sad end.

Hope everything turns out okay...

Mortensen Family said...

well, glad you decided to stay! i have been super busy to check blogs for the last week or so, so I missed everything too. but- glad you are still posting!

Jenn said...

ditto- what areyouserious said.... glad you weren't gone for long! I love reading your fun stuff!

andrea said...

So glad you put that disclaimer and and you are back! ;) Have fun cleaning that room....I have a few rooms in my house due for a serious purging...fun times.

Jenn Toon said...

Glad you decided to stay and I'm sorry if I'm one who reads but doesn't comment! Sometimes it's all I have time for - but know that I love ya and try to comment as often as possible! Sure miss you and your fun-ness! Keep it up - it brightens a lot of people's days up . . . as you can see! Lots of love for you!!

Micah and Jen said...

Woohoo! Soooo glad you changec your mind....and I totally understand what you're going through! Love ya!

crystal said...

Hey now! No thoughts of quitting the blog world! What would blogging be without crazymama???

I hear you on the real-life friends who don't comment; it's like they enjoy spying or something. Weird. Offensive.

HOW DO YOU SEAL GROUT?! You must email me a quick how-to.

But make it quick. We wouldn't want you to over-use your computer time ;)

crystal said...

Favorite all-time quote from your blog is from this post:

"Well I'm off to contribute to the f-ing family."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

Actually, I think this may be my all-time favorite blogging quote, period.

laura said...

ok julie i am leaving a comment because i would be so sad if you ix nayed me from your blog. i am one who reads and never comments but it is only because i am a computer retard and barely know how to type. i love you and your f-ing blog so dont go anywhere.

Piper said...

whew!!! glad you are feeling better!! I am on Cymbalta, and I love it. My sister and I have a quote: "Better living through chemistry"!! Yes!!!
Oh I so wish I lived closer so I could rescue you sometime!

KayDee said...

I am sooo glad you are back! I have been thinking about you alot!
I wish I could do something for you!

Do something for yourself for at least 30 min's every day!

Kimm said...

I am glad that things got resolved.

Claremont First Ward said...

So glad you had a disclaimer......and are back. And I'm rolling. Rolling. But I won't bring attention to the part that sent me over the edge.......I'm sure you can guess!

Susie said...

hope you are doing OK. my life sucks like there's no tomorrow. feel free to email me--misery loves company.

if you feel better, well then me too! I use my blog for focusing on the stuff I like (most of the time)

hmmmm, maybe I should jump on the meds bandwagon?

onehm said...

Well, you know how I feel about all that is going down in your real life, but seriously, I was going to keep your link on my sidebar even if you went private or deleted your blog.
Because then you would see it everytime you looked on my blog, and know that I was WISHING you would come back.
So there you have it.
I love your blog and I am soooooo excited that you aren't leaving.
xoxoxo

Janan said...

Ok, that is it, I have to be on here three times a day again, I miss stuff!! Ok, I want to come over and tour the REMODEL!!! Yes, you heard me right!!!DOn't go private . . . and if you do, I need an invite . . . you have mt real like blog, i need yours!!!!

Lisa said...

Stop toying with my emotions! Blogging should be all or nothing. Shit or get off the pot. (I was trying to find a saying with a cuse word and that was all I could come up with). Who cares if you offend real life friends...your blogger friends aren't offend and that's what matters!

Anonymous said...

YEAH your back!! I've been thinking about you and have meant to send you an e-mail. I've been given guilt trips myself from family and I just my sister to tell them to 'go to hell'. (They don't tell me directly) I don't feel obligated to read anyone else's blog even if they're family. Blogging is something I hold dear and I do it for myself - not for anyone else.

I'm so glad you've figured out some limits that will work with you and your man. That's all that matters. I adore you! I don't get to read blogs as often as I did in the begining, which is a total bummer. But I think you're amazing and I'm so glad you aren't giving up something that means so much to you just because of some meanies.

It also really insults me when people I know in real life read my blog and don't tell me. They don't realize how weird that is. {{Hugs to you}}

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