love and logic anyone?
ok a couple years back i took this great parenting class called LOVE and LOGIC. with this lady, Keri Maughan.
It was are really great, I took it once alone with my friend, then once with my husband. and then i realized until we either moved out of my mom's house or got my mom on board, I wasn't going to get the full benefit from this technique.
I have taken lots of parenting classes. I have to say this one was the hardest to really get into implementing, it is very logical so i totally could grasp the concept behind it, but I got lost on the follow through. but all the work was on myself. which, was at the time really hard for me. but the benefits where huge! so I decided I am going to take this class again. and thought I'd share the wonder. if anyone wants to do it with me let me know.
Keri also teaches an enriching marriage class. we took that too. and it talks about the 5 love
languages book. and some other communication concepts. really great class. but again the follow through, and we did learn some new things that if we really took the time, would totally benefit us. Just throwing that out there too. but if nothing else read the book , we give it now as our standard wedding gift! because if we had known in the beginning what we learned from that book, we could have avoided a whole lot of drama, or hurt feelings.
you can go to loveandlogic.com and check it out.
or order a catalog. there are some great CDs and books too if you don't
live close enough to partake of the wonder of Keri's class!
some of the main things taught in this class are..........
1. Lead with Empathy
2. Oh, Oh Song
3. One-Liners to Neutralize Arguing-"love you too much to argue"
4. Enforceable Statements
5. Choices
6. Anticipatory Consequences/Delayed
Consequences
7. Restitution
Additional chores to pay for parent’s time,
energy, or worry:
8. Child Pays for Baby-sitter or House
Guard- the babysitter takes cash or toys.
9. Strategic Training Session
10. Guiding Kids to Solve their Own
Problems
follow through is huge and teaching them that your word is gold. which is often not fun for the mom. but once the kids figure out you will follow through, you can bet they will make a better choice next time.
and yeah i realize i may seem like a dork for taking it more than one time and admitting that, but i found the reminder of going every week, helped me follow through! and reminded me what i was supposed to do . it takes practice to not automatically yell at your kids, and to remember to give them choices that i can live with. and to remind me to have empathy in my voice instead of sarcasm! those are all not automatic responses for me. so i need all the help i can get!
11 comments:
Wow! I would so love to tak that class with you--but alas, I am in Idaho and I doubt very much that it is offered here--usally things aren't--one of the things I really miss about the city life. I really want that marriage book though--I think M and I are much more aware of stuff now since it is both a second marriage for us, but I am not immune from anything and want to insure that things won't go bad again!
We did love & logic at the school that I taught. Great for kids and teenagers (and spouses sometimes). We too would love to take the class with you. They have classes here but it's too hard to get a babysitter to go. And my kids are still too young to have to pay for the babysitter. Dang! We also love the 5 languages book. Very interesting stuff.
i first have to say i looooove your new background is it new i haven't been on for a while. and i have heard so much about this book it sounds great.
I was just talking with my VT last month and telling her my frustrations with Easton and such. She HIGHLY recommended me taking the classes!!! She did say they were pricey, but since Will probably wouldn't be able to attend with me she said maybe I could split the class with someone. I'm SUPER interested in taking the class!!! Just have to figure out if I can budget it.
I don't think you are stupidfor wanting to take if more than once. How many times do we have to go to church -- weekly!! Reason being we don't learn it the first time to two and need constant reminders on how to implement what we learn I think it is fantastic that you are wanting to continue to learn and change. It is NEVER a bad thing when you are wanting to change for the better. When is the next session coming?
Just real quick -- I also love the book about 5 Languages of Love for Children. They now have one too for couples. It was helpful for me with my children. I love the idea of giving it as a gift with even a gift card out to eat to discuss what they learn. Just a thought.
I love what Allison said and agree with her completely!
Im DEFINATELY interested in taking this with you..How much does this thing run. I have heard wonders about it, and feel it would help me out a great deal! Just let me know the details on when you plan on starting ...and I am there!
Keri came to our ward for a class with the husbands for enrichment night awhile back & it was wonderful!
I have heard that this is a really good method of teaching kids.. I have also heard that it is hard to stick with it & actually get your kids to know you're serious.. I give you props for taking it again! :0) Maybe when my kids are a little older I'll read the book or something.. :0)
I need this class, if you are doing all the work to set it up, I am on board
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