Wednesday, September 19, 2007

important factors in marraige? i rate mine here. for wonderous wednesday!

OK so I was blog hopping a little when i happened upon Bear, he is Kristy and Cami's bro. so i am reading his blog and happened to read this post here .
and it is about a study/survey stating the rating of nine keys of happiness in marriage. read his post. it was interesting and i didn't wanna just thief it so i am linking to it for a reason.
here is the list though so i could refer to it.

1. Fidelity 93%

2. Good sex 70%

3. Sharing household chores 62%

4. Adequate income 53%

5. Good housing51%

6. Shared religious beliefs49%

7. Shared tastes and interests46%

8. Children41%

9. Agreement on politics12%

of course i commented like all good blog readers should (hint, hint) and then i was inspired! i felt a blog post coming on and i had to think about rating the nine keys of happiness in marriage according to me.

and they are..........in order number one being most important to me here. ok but no judging and these are my priorities. MINE !

  1. shared likes and interests-seriously if you weren't interested in more than each other physically, what would you have to talk about when you're done having sex? having stuff in common to talk about and do, makes it way more interesting and worthwhile.
  2. having children- um duh! I'm all about having kids, 6 kids in 7 years to be exact. I'm not saying it is easy all the time but it is what makes our marriage a happy one. it was my main reason to get married.
  3. good sex- what can i say? I like sex! but a more important part of good sex in a healthy marriage is open communication. not just frequency.
  4. sharing household chores-this is negotiable because with adequate income i could pay for someone to do his share but seriously if he didn't help I'd be screwed. and men that don't help with their own children suck! Lance is rad!
  5. Adequate income-having money makes everything easier , of course we have never quite had adequate income. Lance thinks no matter what we would never have adequate enough for my spending habits. but it wouldn't hurt.
  6. Fidelity-people say fidelity is the be all end all of marriage but seriously? a marriage can survive infidelity if you are willing to deal with the reason it happened in the first place. Honesty ranks higher with me.
  7. good housing-seriously it is nice but not in the top 5 obviously! you can be happy in a crappy house. I've done it.
  8. shared religious beliefs-just because they make you start on more level ground.so you don't have to overcome that too. in addition to all of your upbringing , habits and traditions you can at least know you agree on your religion.
  9. Agreement on politics- i don't really give a rats about politics, i have my opinion and that is enough. he can have his opinion , we happen to agree but if we didn't i wouldn't care! i am not one to fight about politics. but if he felt compelled to argue about it I'd take him down! it is best to not argue with me.
how do they rate to you? seriously it is all a matter of personal opinion. i am not one of those people that is pushy and thinks everyone should agree with me. or thinks my opinion is the only right one. in fact people that talk and act that way bug me! everyone has their own experiences and opinions , they have to live their own lives. I have mine. lets not judge.

10 comments:

blah, blah by lindsey said...

that is awesome. i am gonna have to check that out. i agree with many of your points. i need to rate my own.

onehm said...

This is one of my most favorite of your posts! Love all your points. I, like Lindsey, need to rate my own!!

Andrea said...

Interesting...I'll have to think about that one. I definitely agree with your top 4 at least. I like having lots in common to talk and LAUGH about. I also think intimacy is important & open honest communication. I think kids are important and wanted to be with someone who also wanted kids (we both wanted 4). I also wanted someone who was an equal partner with all things having to do with the house & kids! My hubby is Awesome & I totally found MY perfect mate!

michelle said...

Good post! I am going to need to rate my own. Hmmm, wonder what I will come up with!

Brandi said...

Good points!! I too agree that the #1 is to have similar interests to be able to have things to talk about. I mean don't get me wrong, no 2 people are the same, but it is soooo important to have things to talk about & somewhat have the same perspective.. Good post!!

careyttops or katelyn's kid kitchen said...

i ♥ your blog, your honesty & your outlook on life! you're so down to earth!

so, at first, i thought my list was very similar to yours, until i read it entirely than i discovered that my list is entirely different! my #1 is actually towards the bottome of yours... this was so good for me and extremely interesting!

thanks for the insight! and happy bloggn' to ya!

Jamie said...

Great post . It gives a girl lot's to think about!!!!

Webb Family said...

I really enjoyed this, it's really got me thinking!

Supercool Mom said...

Thought provoking post...I have to laugh, because none of us sisters would be able to stand being married to any of the others' husbands - we all have our own issues and each individual has to decide which crap they will tolerate and what they won't, AND of course, what they NEED out of marriage in order to be happy and fulfilled. Many of us NEED prozac.

Julie said...

Yes very cool post! Lots of thought went into it and gave us all something to think about too! It is so interesting what things are important to us huh? Like politics, it doesn't seem to matter much since my dh and I agree but if we didn't then it would probably be a huge annoyance/deal to me!

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