Wednesday, February 13, 2008

WTH? ! it isn't worth the freakin' drama!

over the top crap! yeah it hit that fan . and really? not a good time.

5 months ago, the wild bunko group split up. really it was torn apart. by freaking retarded high school girl drama. on more than one persons part. and i am not saying i didn't play a part. and get sucked in. i am easily sucked into that. especially if i'm in a funk which i was at the time. and i admit i suck. and i apologize.

i was sad. not as sad as the people that played for years together. and experienced alot as a group. they supported eachother through divorces, and marriages, and babies and postpartum depression. and tons of other crappy stuff you have friends to support you through, and you grow closer and then some how it get less and less important to some , and others pick fights and don't let it go. and then people get involved where they shouldn't be. and the crap hits the fan and it crashes and burns. and people are sad.

so the group broke up. people move on. others fill that void with another group. and more want to start a new one. and some people don't have time. don't need the drama. or don't' have the money to play anymore. and it is sad but we accept it and move on.

then someone is jealous. and assumed that we were secretly playing. and accuses people of excluding others. and it isn't true. and drama erupts , the festering jealousy comes to a head and it all explodes. and the wound is reopened, and the crap hits the fan. and people are irritated. the group needs to heal. there is no imaginary secret group. and the drama makes it so there never will be.

DRAMA!

who needs that? NOT ME!
i am a grown up. an adult. i am leaving that crap behind me. and moving on. it is not to be relived, rehashed, or re anything. becuase doing that is RE-Tarded! seriously.

Lance is a big fan of telling me. "well, if that is the biggest thing you have to worry about , then life must be pretty good." and i generally flip him the bird. and move on.

so right now, i know i have bigger stuff to worry about.

so here is the imaginary bird DAMN IT! i am F-ing moving on.

grow up.

and dang it. i wasted a whole freaking post on this!

so WTH? why do some people not progress past that high school mentality? didn't they get their fill of high school when they were there?

i had my fill. and anything or anyone remotely making me feel like i am back there is automatically ousted from my life. i live in an adult world. and deal with adult crap . and i don't need anymore high school drama ever again.

22 comments:

Jenn Toon said...

Ok - so there a story! I know it! When this show finally gets off the ground and I'm back from my MUCH deserved vacation - let's hit the Wal-mart so I can hear all the juice!!
It's F-ing 4:30AM and I just got home. Trying to decide if I should go to bed and risk getting up late or just stay up. Hard decision - really!!

tammy said...

Amen. We need a new group. Maybe we should hold auditions? You could advertise on your blog, and we could see who's worthy.

Jen said...

Here Here!!

Susie said...

Your husbands perspective made me feel less angry toward mine--thanks for sharing--AND your response to him made me smile. I'm soooo trying that one next time he says--oh you are so silly, really this isn't a big deal--you are lucky that's your only problem.

to answer the question about high school--no I believe they didn't get their fill, that some people are so emotionally retarded in their own thinking they can't move forward/ it gets sadder when they pass that 2 year old mentality on to their kids and then expect their kids to grow up when they haven't.
oops there I go again--ranting all over your blog, so sorry!
I do love reading what you say though!

tammy said...

REally is a WTH Wednesday, huh?

Jamie said...

YEP!! Not the least bit interested in any High Scool Drama!! Sorry you have to deal with it!

kellyo75 said...

I would so set up a secret Bunko group...Can I be in?? I am really fun, I swear! So sorry you have to deal with the drama, but what do you expect when you have TWELVE women in one group?

AutoSysGene said...

Here, here! I'm all for moving on!!

Webb Family said...

I love Lance's comment! Sorry that is so not fun & I totally agree about there are to many adults acting like they are still in high school. I hated it then & hate it now! Good luck!

Jenifer said...

These are the times I really admire men. They fight, shake hands, move on. Women fester and rehash and all that garbage. DOn't we have enough to do?

StrykerLOVE said...

I agree it is so strange that many adults still act like teenagers. I remember my first real job at a real company and all these old grown-up people with cliques and secrets and gossip! So disappointed!! Its worse when its friends and neighbors though since you are around it all day. Lance may be right but still doesn't take the sting out of old friends turning nasty.

kay said...

that stinks. i hate it when grown-ups act like kids. just get over yourselves.

you rock!!

Leslie said...

Whats Bunko? I know how you feel..my best friend from HS wont even talk to me anymore..Dont know what I did? Ohwell..I guess when it comes down to it...family is all that matters...right? I guess a few friends does hurt.

KATE said...

Okay, I know I shouldn't be laughing, but I am! You're cracking me up!!
I am so the same! I H.A.T.E. the girly drama crap! I'm sorry that you've been dealing with all this bulls#*%, it's no good! When the situations in adulthood arise that force you to "revisit" high school it's so aggrevating, I didn't even like that crap when I WAS IN High School!
I love your "F-ing & WTH & Flipping the Bird!" seriously we should hang out sometime! I can promise you no drama!! hee hee

Good Luck with it all...

Crissybug said...

Life isn't worth hanging on to grudges or the past. It only eats a person up inside. Thankfully I don't get offended easily. When you look at things - most people are NOT vindictive. They are not trying to hurt someone else, but somehow it happens. Hopefully all who is involved can get over it, and move on with life, but from the sounds of it...it keeps coming back to haunt those who have already left it behind!

KayDee said...

I dont have anything different to say but I did want to say I am sorry that you are having to deal with this. I know it isn't any fun! I REALLY HOPE that your day gets better.

NerdyRedneck Rob said...

Now, I know it’s no fun when friends are mad at each other. Still, all you commenter’s are not fooling me though! If you women really did not LOVE all the high-school drama then all the soap operas, gossip shows and reality shows would go off the air overnight!

You know you love it so just admit it!

Oh wait! There is more drama in pretending you hate it when you really love it, right? :)

blah, blah by lindsey said...

i semi agree with rob there, but there is a point where you gotta let it go.

all that bunko stuff is in the past and to keep bringing it up it really sad. and i do feel really bad for jen, tam, tia, laura and everyone else cause they lost their one night out to escape and that is not fair at all. i wish we could rewind and start over but it seems like anytime you make progress something else happens.

Allison said...

I agree with Rob. But there are men out there too that get into the DRAMA of soap operas, reality shows, gossip, etc. I just think that some of their reality shows are the sports. And there is the wrestling federation that they watch. The best thing men have though is that they get over it and forget it easier than women. Us women attach emotion to the situation and that is when things get whacked.

We just need to remember what we learned in kindergarten and Jr. Primary and life will be better. Lets just regress a few years more and life will be good.

Melanie and Will said...

Couldn't have put that better myself! AMEN!

Shannon said...

That tends to be the reason that I stay away from bunko and other women's group activities. I hated that stuff in high school and I have NO tolerance for it now. I too stinkin' old for that:)

Micah and Jen said...

Yep....right there with you....HATE HATE HATE the high school mentality and DRAMA!!! Did I mention I HATE it??? You know what I mean....drama is NOT me and I am trying VERY hard to avoid it at all costs....I just wish everyone was mature enough to act like adults....but alas, that is the world we live in and many people out there are still stuck in that drama filled, insecure, high school lifestyle...I am so sorry for the stress this has caused in your life, but at least you can move on from it!

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