Thursday, March 27, 2008

glad for girls night!

k so girls night out is tonight. and can i say i am so glad i won't be home tonight.
we got TWO calls to come have home visits for tonight. and since i won't be home we don't have to have them.
One from the bishopric wanting to come.
and
One from the stake relief society secretary and our R.S. secretary.

why they wanted to come i don't know but can i just say, I'm happy to dodge that bullet.

i bet they are trying to "activate" us. after the winter that we never seem to make it to church,since people (usually a few people) are always sick.

or just being friendly since i confessed I'm not totally loving being back in this ward.

did i tell you that one of the ladies in Nursery actually told me Pierce couldn't come unless one of us came with him. since he isn't happy to be there and cries. it doesn't help it is during his normal nap time. and he is never away from mom and dad, and only gets babysat by grandmas. I'm sure i blitched about this. did I or just mentally compose a post and moved on? anyway. Sunday. we actually went to church, and Lance went with Pierce. well, come to find out. the other people in there were fine having him there and realize it takes time to adjust but were willing to wait it out. AND the primary presidency person over nursery was peeved that Someone said anything to me. she asked me and i told her the story. AND she said if anyone said anything to me again, to let her know. yeah so in the retelling i got a little emotional. I'm frustrated. and sometimes it isn't worth the fight.

not that we'd be those people that take offense and never go to church . we aren't people that do that and we realize anyone that is lacking in tact or follow through are just people too. stupid people maybe, but also just people.


well i better go play. I'm watching my niece Elizabeth this morning and Pierce is totally jealous.
crying because I'm holding her. funny. and kinda sad.

have a fab one.

and go comment on that contest. it's super rad!

25 comments:

Mamarazzi said...

i REALLY dislike my ward. we have been here almost 2 yrs and honestly we rarely go more than 2 weeks in a row. the people there are...strange. it's like i moved to another planet instead of 2 hours away from my old home. when we first moved in i was called to be the Primary chorister. the primary pres let me know she was "not happy" they asked "someone new, who did not know the children" to do this job. she also made it clear that the old chorister "cried and cried when they 'fired her'" ummm yes she really said that. THEN i had people coming up to me asking me WHY i said yes to the calling. ummm because it's a calling...?

bizarre. i eventually took it up with the Bishop, he took back the calling, "un fired" the lady and i have not been called to anything since. which is weird. really weird.

so i get that...YES they are just people but come on...really?!?

andrea said...

I'm our ward nursery coordinator, and that is completely lame that you were told that. Anytime we have a kid upset and crying, we try to work it out for a while on our own, and then if they are too out of control then we get the parents....but it has to be ultra hysterical and not stopping before we get the parents.

I bet I have a mom ticked at me because I told her to quit peeking through the window to check on her kid. Inevitably, the kid would always catch her and flip out....she'd be fine or getting there until she saw her mom, then it all would start again. So if I was out in the hall and saw her start heading down to peek, I'd stop her. I'm sure she thinks I'm a big witch...and I shouldn't even post this comment because I've seen her comment on your blog before!

(What are the odds? That two people you don't even know post comments on your blog and are in the same ward?! Funny, I think!)

Lynell said...

Girls night out? Can I come? My husband is outta town and I could use a little break from being mommy for an hour or two. Ü

I feel for you. I am not the get offended type. But when my son decided not to go on a mission, a few people's comments really hurt my feelings. It surprised me how tough it was to go to church. It made me want to watch what I say a lot more closely. I have been know to let my mouth go faster than my brain.

Laura said...

I used to dislike my ward until I changed my attitude and tried harder. There were some hidden gems I never knew about. I love my ward now. I have different friends who fulfill different purposes.

I love what you said about people just being people. I think when you look at it that way you realize the Gospel is not about the people running the programs. They make mistakes, have faults and certainly hurt feelings. Our dedication to the gospel should not be dependent on anyone but our relationships with Heavenly Father.

That all being said... I cannot believe the nursery teacher. Lame. Pierce will never adjust with you there. They have to step up and make it work for him. I had the hardest time leaving my twins (still do in primary) and I rely completely on the teachers doing their part.

Heather S. said...

I don't want to type a long post, but I will say that I feel your pain. I really do hope that things get better. I think it's what all of us need to hear.

tammy said...

Oh yeah, you dodged a bullet. I'm sure they're just coming to check on you, like you said. But still. I love the ward I'm in now, but I have had issues in the past with people. Good that you can realize they are just people.

Yay for GNO!! And tomorrow!

Are You Serious! said...

♥ Ditto to everything already said! :) Sometimes I just want to stay home by MYSELF and have all the kids go. Isn't that terrible? I never do but... It would be nice. :) Yay, that the Primary Pres was cool though!

Anonymous said...

Always love your honesty in your blog. I had a really hard time making friends in my new ward, but one year later I can say that I may not have tons and tons of friends, but the friends I have are amazing. I found my nitch.

Also, you earned Kudos on my blog and I did write a little bit about you.

KayDee said...

I second everything that has already been said! I am in a primary presidency and I could go on for hours about that kind of situation! I have been on both sides as the parent and the leader and neither side is pretty! I am so sorry you had to go through something like that. I hope things get better! Thank goodness its the gospel that is perfect and all of us are striving to be one day!

Whoohoo for dodging the bullets:)

Leslie said...

I would do your contest but I dont want to win cause I dont want to have to make anything...

:o( Sorry...kind of lame I know!!

Sorry about your ward...I know how hard it is to go when you dont like the ward...Been there totally!!

ZB said...

I too am a nursery coordinator and I would never tell anyone that. I'm always trying to get parents to leave. The kid has to get used to it sometime.

As for the visits from the RS & Bishop. You might be getting a calling!

Anonymous said...

I usually have to go to one of my boys classes as well. It's such a drag and makes me not want to be there at all. Nursery - isn't it usually better to let them cry it out? What do I know.

Anyway, have a great time tonight girl! Party hard for the both of us. he he

AutoSysGene said...

I can't believe you guys were out at the zoo today. As I type the snow is falling at an alarmingly quick speed! Quit hogging the sunshine and send some our way!

michelle said...

My first thoughts were someone is getting a calling at your house! :) I a sorry about the nursery struggles. Who ever said that to you must have been having a bad day? Hang in there. I am giving Ashley a call about Weds. Sounds like fun to me! :)

Flea said...

Why do you have to attend that specific church again?

Micah and Jen said...

Yay for girls night out! And way to dodge the bullet on the higher ups coming to visit! I am right there with you....I think they only called me into the primary pres. because we are never there! Sick kiddos makes it hard! I am still never there because I am always sick....I told the pres that I wanted to be released before the twins came and whenever she felt was best I was fine with....SOON hopefully! That is frustrating about the nursery....some people just don't know when to keep their mouthes shut! Have a fun night out!

KATE said...

I hope you're out right now having TONS of fun!! I'm a little more than envious!
~Sorry you had that happen. It's hard sometimes with wards, isn't it? We always get pegged for inactive during the winter too, but I refuse to take sick kids! I'm glad you said something to the Primary Pres tho so that she knows things have been going on! Good job & don't worry about getting emotional I would have too!

onehm said...

WOW. Don't they know that Lance is king of the nursery and you don't do that???? ;)
Glad that you will get to have GNO!

Jenn said...

hope you had a fun gno. sorry about the ward. that makes life really hard when you have one hater in the crowd. at least the pp was way cool and on your side. and most kids do take time getting "into" the nursery habit. so i hope things get better.

Susie said...

Wards? Nursery? don't know those words. Good job not judging though and getting emotional? nothing more emotional than our kids--good job standing up for little Pierce! WTG MOM!
Now, you have GNO and sunshine and trips to the zoo? Sounds like some good karma to me! I'm with Melissa, can you send some our way? I too had fast-falling snow at alarming rates followed by THUNDER showers every couple of hours. Can you imagine thundering one moment, snowing in the next? Chicago--it's why we have some of the best food in the country!!!!!!
have a great day!

StrykerLOVE said...

J - thanks for the info on Ali. Can't believe how the same she looks! I am glad I can get a peek into her life - so thanks again for passing the info. Love girls nights - they save your life don't they?!

Andrea said...

Nursery is always hard in the beginning! Pierce will get used to it and do better each week.

I'm so glad you came to GNO last night! It was FUN!! (and expensive!) Thanks for being kind to my SIL. She had fun too! She's had a lot of stress lately and needed a fun evening out!

Thanks for my beautiful PRIZE!!

crystal said...

Ward transitions are always, always hard. Try to sift through people to find the "keepers." :)

raising4boys said...

Yay for girls night out, hope it was fabulous! {jealous}

Nat Nat said...

Well you already know my ward issues because you were so sweet to come by and comment for me. :) Made me very happy! Thanks

Anyway, from all my blitching about the nursery thing here is what my dear friend told me this week. "nursery is a convienance for the parents and it is up to you on how you feel the best way to handle it for your kid is."

But must note that this week I did the music for primary and taught a lesson so I tired to make him stay and the one time I went into the hall to get a drink to stop my coughing the little pill opened the door and escaped and say me. It was all over at the point. UGH!! Hope you have better luck soon.

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