going out protocol and hot night out!

tonight lance had s nerd fest,err, i mean game night, planned. and can i say no when he plans one of these um NO! so even though i had plans to go out want' going to go, because he never goes out and i have to let him,. when he actually has something planned even though he didn't follow the going out protocol
the going out protocol is as follows:
a few days before i make plans it goes like this:

asking honey can i go out ?
we are doing ___________________. OK?

then when we have made plans i mention :

ok we have plans to go out at ________time, and ______ date, and we are doing ______. and ________is going and ________and don't forget i am going out.

the day or two before drama generally crops up about something so i talk about it continuously and i again mention:
____ night, _________and I and are going to _________ and we are doing _______. OK? and you said I could _____ day and ________ time too.

then the day of i remind :
before he leaves for work
don't forget, i am going out tonight and you need to be home at _____ time.
and then at noon or when ever i talk to him i say again you need to be home by this time ______ is picking me up. OK?
and then around 3pm Honey? when are you leaving you know i have _____ tonight with __and ________ and we are doing _________ and if i have prepaid it is even better because there is no backing out once i have paid. and then i say do you need me to call and remind you when to leave? are you sure ? ok I'll call you at ____pm.
later at _______ pm i call and he almost always doesn't answer. no phone service , phone died, away from desk, chatting with a co worker whatever! he always doesn't get the phone. and it bugs! so then I get peeved and sometimes he calls after he was supposed to be home already and says OH sorry i was doing____ and talking to _______ and i couldn't leave. ok well why are you being such a rag? oh yous had something tonight? ok I'm on my way. get ready to for ________. and yeah then he comes home and i bail asap. more often though i have to still get dressed before i can leave since i can't get ready when the kids are all hungry/whiny/clingy, take your pick. so i have to get ready and then leave.
that is usually how it goes. when i have plans.

yesterday he informed me he had these plans, he'd mentioned a few weeks before a different night he'd planned it but no one was available but he failed to mention the date change. and never informed me. so yeah, there need to be some protocol for going out.

tonight however, 2 kids were gonna spend the night at my moms so i asked "hey, do you think you can watch the all kids while i go for jenny's birthday? " there were only a couple of us going and i feel bad bailing. since Lance had plans and i can't deny him one night out compared to my hundreds of nights out. 100 to one ratio in my favor. so my mom said yes. and they all went to hang out while we went to dinner and to The Nanny Diaries. which was ok, i have not read the book, so I thought it was OK, actually i liked it others weren't so thrilled but i am easily entertained. and the end was better than becoming Jane. which was the last movie we had seen together.

and i got to my moms before 9:30 which was when i said I'd be back. we were home and all the kids in bed before 10pm yay! lance is out for an all nighter. playing video games. he thinks he should be able to sleep in. hmmm yeah when i stay out until 4am, i still get up at 7:00 for the kids to get ready for school but he thinks i should let him sleep in. since it is his only day during the week he can. HMM could it be that it is my only day of the week to sleep in too?? yeah, another fight for another day. yay!